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God graciously forgives us and tells us to do the same for others. When we forgive, we are reflecting the love of Jesus.
“Jesus died to forgive my sins.” This is an elemental truth about our faith. Our God is a forgiving God. Jesus’ death on the cross paid the penalty for our sins. We need only ask for God’s forgiveness.
It sounds so easy. But it is also very costly. Our forgiveness cost Jesus his life. We must never forget that. And we must also never forget that forgiveness isn't just something we receive from the Lord; it's also something we offer to others. Jesus’ short example of prayer — what we usually call the "Lord’s Prayer” — clearly teaches that confessing our sins to God and forgiving others go hand in hand. It's usually much easier to celebrate Jesus’ forgiveness of us than to follow his commandments to forgive others.
But the Bible always ties these two things together — receiving forgiveness from the Lord and giving forgiveness to others.
The Bible also ties together forgiveness and freedom. Jesus forgives us and frees us from the power of sin. We forgive others and are freed from bitterness and anger.
Forgiveness isn’t as simple as saying, “It’s OK, no worries, forget about it.” We need to truly mean it in our hearts. And sometimes there are things that need to be worked out, consequences that must be faced, and reconciliation (or relationship repair) that also need to happen. Those are all important things. But they can’t happen unless forgiveness happens first.
Forgiveness is meant to be a two-way exchange where one person offers it (or asks for it) and the other person receives it (or gives it). But sometimes things fall apart and it's one-way. A person might offer forgiveness that's rejected. Or a person might ask for forgiveness that's not granted. Reconciliation requires both people to acknowledge, talk, listen, understand, and follow God’s lead toward a healthy and whole relationship.
Forgiveness is something we need to practice regularly. If we aren’t able to forgive the small things as a regular habit, it will be very difficult to forgive the big things.
Remember this: faithful followers of Jesus ARE forgiven — it’s our identity. As God’s forgiven children, we are called to be forgivers — that’s also our identity. Forgiving isn't just something we do. It's who we are.
Begin with a conversation starter, then use some of these warm-up questions.
Use one or more of these passages to see what scripture says about gracious forgiveness. You can also engage with the passage by copying out part of it, rewriting it as a prayer, rephrasing it as its opposite, summarizing it with a single word or phrase, making a list or chart of similar and dissimilar things, or turning it into something visual like a doodle, design, or flowchart.
Read Mark 14:66-72 and John 21:15-17 (Peter's denial of Jesus and Jesus' forgiveness of Peter).
Read Luke 15:11-32 (the forgiving father).
Read Luke 15:11-32 (the unforgiving older son).
Read Matthew 6:9-15 and Matthew 18:21-35 (the Lord's Prayer and parable of the unforgiving debtor)
A few things about the parable: 7 is an important number in Scripture. It symbolizes completeness or perfection. Parables are often filled with symbols and hyperbole (overstating things) in order to make a point. Keep an eye out for 7s and hyperbole. Parables helped teach truth that was easy to understand but often difficult to believe or follow.
“But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too.” (Mark 11:25, words of Jesus)
Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you. (Ephesians 4:31-32)
Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. (Colossians 3:13-14)
Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results. (James 5:16)
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